What does freedom mean to you?

Recently, I was reminded that great gains often come with great sacrifice. The reminder came in an Army Times article announcing that Lt. Gen. Darryl A. Williams, a 1983 U.S. Military Academy graduate, had recently became the first African American officer to command West Point in its 216-year history.

The article put Williams’ accomplishment into perspective by sharing some of the challenges faced by Benjamin O. Davis, Jr., the first African American to attend West Point in the 20th century. Davis reportedly ate alone, roomed alone and was shunned by other cadets. After graduating in 1936, Davis went on to command the Tuskegee Airmen during World War II and retired as an Air Force general in 1970.

It took courage for Davis to stand up for himself, just as it takes courage for people with ADHD to tackle the obstacles they face.

Over the years, I have met many parents who have made sacrifices so that their children with ADHD may have a better life. You might be among them. You may spend countless hours of time doing homework with your child, monitoring screen time, managing melt downs, or trying to drag your child out of bed in the morning. Many parents are bringing their kids to therapy or doctor appointments instead of play dates or sporting events. The physical, emotional, and financial costs of managing ADHD are significant.

In the alternative, you may be the adult who has struggled with ADHD symptoms all your life, never feeling quite “normal.” Now that you are on medication, you are starting to look at your life with new eyes. Maybe the people around you aren’t kind or supportive. If you told anyone that you were diagnosed with ADHD, you may have been surprised by their feedback. They might think that you couldn’t have ADHD because you are smart, state that it isn’t real, or say, “doesn’t everybody have ADHD?” 

Even though ADHD is one of the most researched areas in mental health, we have an enormous gap in public education. The truth is that we will have to educate others about ADHD and specifically our ADHD.  We only have had an official adult diagnosis since 2013.  Adults have been called the “forgotten children” of the “ADHD world.”

Every journey starts somewhere and begins with a single step. What brave step can you take today?  As they saying goes, if nothing changes, then nothing changes. How can you educate yourself about ADHD so that you can speak up for yourself or your child? How can you step out of isolation and into community, especially a community where people “get” ADHD? There is risk involved as well as sacrifice. There is a cost to freedom. How can you honor the legacy of those who have gone before? What legacy will you leave behind? What journey will you begin today?

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 Are you the woman who is up to all hours of the night, unable to drag yourself out of bed in the morning? You may stumble to the coffee pot, trying to gear up for another day in the world of the scattered. You are pedaling as fast as you can, but things seem to always fall through the cracks, and not for the lack of trying. There is always one more thing to do, and you’re late for everything.
 
Once you get going, you don’t want to stop. Not only do you have a lot to make up for, but you may never get started again. You are paralyzed by your to-do list and get buried under the pile of laundry and mounds of paperwork. With each passing day, your fuse gets shorter and you fall more behind. You forget to send that birthday card in time and the thought of having company strikes fear into your soul. You dread after-school time as you try to dredge up the energy to work with kids on homework. Suddenly, it is 6 p.m.! Your spouse walks in the door and wonders what’s for dinner. By the time the kids are in bed, you are wiped out. Nonetheless, you stay up to get things done while it’s quiet. You struggle with getting yourself to go to bed, and then you are lucky if you can shut your mind off to fall asleep. Suddenly it’s morning. You hit the snooze button repeatedly, crack open your eyes, and it starts all over again!
 
Welcome to the world of women with ADHD! 
 
Issues Unique to Women
Women face a number of unique issues when it comes to ADHD. Chief among them is that that they are likely to struggle for years with undiagnosed ADHD, leading to deep feelings of inadequacy. They may wonder why everyday tasks feel so overwhelming, when other people seem to manage them so easily.
 
Diagnosed later in life
Women who weren’t diagnosed with ADHD as children are typically 36 to 38 years old when they learn they have the disorder, according to Dr. Patricia Quinn, director of the National Center for Girls and Women with ADHD. Before that time, women are likely to be diagnosed with a mood disorder or anxiety, Quinn says.  Though these two conditions often coexist with ADHD, these diagnoses don’t get to the root of the issue, Quinn explains.
 
Diagnosed less frequently than men
A 2017 report issued by the National Institutes of Health stated that males are three times as likely to be diagnosed with ADHD as females. Linda Roggli, an ADHD coach who specializes in women’s issues, says that it wasn’t until the mid-1990s that women and girls began to be diagnosed with ADHD at all. This was due in large part to the groundbreaking book by therapist Sari Solden, Women with ADHD.
 
Girls and women tend to have the inattentive presentation of ADHD, according to Solden. This is one of the reasons that their symptoms often go under the radar. Women can also have a hyperactive presentation, but it may look different than it does in men. For instance, they may “hyper talk” or have trouble relaxing.
 
Inattentive girls and women often lose things, make careless mistakes, and get distracted easily, according to Roggli, host of the ADHD Women’s Palooza, a yearly online conference. They also may avoid tasks that take a lot of mental energy and focus, be disorganized, lose track of time, have trouble following through, and easily get overwhelmed and anxious, Roggli said.
 
Traditional Role Expectations
No matter how wonderful our partners are, there seem to be many unwritten expectations that fall to women. Day-to-day living is hard enough without thinking about major holidays such as Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, or Christmas. There are often expectations placed on women, such as shopping, cooking, cleaning, entertaining, baking, etc. You may feel “under the microscope” to perform, or to measure up to cultural standards or stereotypical expectations of women.
 
Perfectionism
The pressure that you feel may very well come from within. Procrastination is very connected to perfectionism. Having to do something perfectly makes it very difficult to start. We often feel so out of control that we become rigid in our thinking: all-or-nothing. Our popcorn thinking can get us into a great deal of trouble, because we get off on too many tangents, complicating the task at hand.

We, like the general ADHD population, have a hard time selecting. Planning a menu can be difficult when there are so many choices. Creating a 45-minute presentation can be a challenge, because how can you narrow down and choose the most relevant information?
 
Hormonal Fluctuations
There is an important connection between hormones and ADHD that affect girls and women. We know that hormone levels fluctuate monthly as well as over a woman’s life. As a general principal, when estrogen in low, ADHD symptoms are worse. This can look like a young adult, right before her period, a woman after giving birth, or a woman in peri menopause or menopause. Low estrogen leads to a decrease in serotonin and dopamine levels in the brain, causing symptoms such as moodiness, irritability, fatigue and memory lapses. ADHD meds at their normal dose don’t seem to work as well. There are providers who work with women to increase their dose of ADHD meds in order to accommodate shifts in estrogen. This can be very important for women post menopause when there is a natural cognitive decline.   
 
While estrogen may enhance the effectiveness of ADHD medications, it may not be the case for girls in puberty where there is also an increase in the hormone progesterone. Patricia Quinn, M.D, asserts that women with ADHD experience premenstrual syndrome (PMS) more acutely than women who don’t have the condition. In addition, treating ADHD can improve the symptoms of PMS as well. Learn more in an article by Laura Flynn McCarthy, “Women, Hormones, and ADHD.”
 
What Can Help:

• Get a Physical: ADHD is considered a “rule-out” diagnosis. Getting a physical is recommended to rule out other medical conditions that can mimic the traits of ADHD, such as impaired thyroid function, for example.

• Check your hormone levels: The better your estrogen levels are, the more ADHD symptoms are controlled and the more effective your ADHD medication will be.
• Get the diagnosis: If you even suspect that you have ADHD, get an official diagnosis from a psychiatrist or psychologist. Check out local providers from either CHADD or ADDA.
• Consider Medication: Though medication may not be for everyone, when it works it is a beautiful thing. About 80 percent of people with ADHD respond well to stimulant medication. Women in childbearing years my benefit from increasing ADHD meds prior to their monthly cycle, when estrogen tends to drop. This can also support menopausal women who experience a decline in estrogen. 
• Drop Perfectionism: Procrastination is often linked to perfectionism, which tends to freeze us up. What does a “good enough” job look like in any arena of life? If a task is “not perfect” and we tweak it too long, it may never actually get done.
• Simplify: One way to simplify is to ask the question, “what is today’s priority?”  Priorities are like the bumpers used in bowling for children. Bumpers allow the ball to stay centered and to actually hit the pins. Priorities support you in prioritizing: keeping some things in and keeping other things out.
• Delegate: The problem with delegating is that you have to be organized in order to do so! Looking ahead and having a plan is a prerequisite to asking for help.  Many of us believe that we “should” be able to do this or that.
• Eliminate: We all have the same number of hours per day and are not often realistic as to what we can accomplish. Where can you streamline any process? It might look like eating out or picking up take-out food to eliminate hours of cooking and clean-up.
• Under promise and over deliver: Many women are afraid to say ‘no.’ My coach would say to me: “If you say ‘no’ to this, what are you saying ‘yes’ to?” For example, if I say ‘no’ to a last-minute request, then I am saying ‘yes’ to sticking to my plan for the day.
• Subtract before you add: If you choose to add an activity or task to your schedule, then what thing will you take away?
• Put yourself in the equation: Many women resist the idea of putting themselves first, but how about at least considering yourself in any situation? You are no more or less important than any one else. If you pay attention to what you need in any area of life, then others will benefit as a result. Not paying attention to what we need often results in anger, resentment, and frustration.
• Restore: What brings energy back to you? It might look like putting your feet up for a few minutes each day or doing a mindless activity that gives your brain a rest.
• Know your strengths and use them: Do something that you are good at, as often as you can! As we manage challenges, it is equally important to use our strengths.
• Get support: Where do you want to go, or what do you need? Who can help? If certain areas of life were so easy, we would have conquered them a long time ago.

 
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Have you always struggled to be on time, manage piles, or finish projects? Do certain tasks take you a long time, while you fly through others?  Have comments from teachers or family members made you suspect that you or your child may have ADHD?

If so, what’s stopping you from finding out? Are you afraid of what an ADHD diagnosis might mean for you and your family? If so, let me offer a word of encouragement. Hope and healing start with an accurate diagnosis.
Why? It lets you know what you’re dealing with. You can’t find support or treatment for something if you don’t know what it is.

The impact of an ADHD diagnosis reminds me of a Johnny Nash song, “I Can See Clearly Now.” The opening line says: “I can see clearly now; the rain is gone. I can see all obstacles in my way…” 

Initial Relief
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For some, it is a relief to hear that there is a reason you have struggled to wake up every morning and do simple daily tasks, like laundry or meals. What you have struggled with has a name.

Stages of Grief

After the initial relief comes the impact of the diagnosis, especially if you have been diagnosed as an adult. First of all, you may start to look at the name of the disorder: Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. You might have already struggled in life and feel lacking, now you see the word “deficit” in your diagnosis. You think back over your life and wish that you had known sooner. How might life have been different? You mourn what could have been. Therapist Sari Solden, in her excellent book, Journeys Through Adulthood, likens coming to grips with the diagnosis with going through the stages of grief. As described by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, the Grief Cycle includes denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

You may be shocked by others’ reaction to your diagnosis. I clearly remember the reaction of relatives who said, “Oh, not you; you’re so smart!” There is a great lack of understanding regarding ADHD, even though it is one of the most researched areas in mental health.

Seeking Support

You may realize that you need support, but where do you start? You have the challenges that go along with the disorder, and now you have to figure out the roadmap to getting help. You may have read a lot of books, but how can you apply the information to your daily life in a way that makes a difference?

Moving Forward

There can be freedom through the diagnosis as you discover what has gotten in the way of success all of these years. There is hope! You can drop the need to be perfect as you get a sense of control over your life. In the words of Maya Angelou, “You can forgive yourself for what you didn’t know before you learned it.”

Educating yourself about ADHD is powerful as you learn what it is and what it is not. Discovering where your ADHD shows up on a daily basis—and the tools to manage it—is empowering. In my experience, when you learn to advocate for yourself with ADHD, you strengthen your voice in other areas of life as well. What has been an area of weakness or challenge can become a strength. Your quality of life improves and you start to see yourself differently.  With the right support, people with ADHD can be among the most successful. April showers can bring May flowers!

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Ever wish there were a leprechaun who could sprinkle fairy dust over your brain to help you get started? People who have ADHD often lament their lack of motivation. But if we waited for motivation to begin a task, we might be waiting a very long time.

What if I were to tell you that motivation, though helpful, isn’t a prerequisite for starting or executing a task? Or that getting things done isn’t based on luck? By understanding how your emotions affect motivation, you can stop wishing for a leprechaun and start creating your own luck.

Not by Will Alone

Truthfully, people with ADHD do struggle with low motivation for ordinary tasks while we can focus like nobody we know in an area of strength or interest. This is often bewildering to those around us who wonder why we can engage so easily in one area, while completely dropping the ball in another.

According to research, ADHD is not a lack of willpower, even though it might look that way. ADHD and executive skills expert Thomas Brown, Ph.D., attributes this to two areas of brain function, the unconscious emotions that impact motivation as well as working memory that allows us to prioritize tasks. He talks about this in “The Mystery of Motivation”. 

Both positive and negative emotions influence areas of executive functioning, such as getting started, sustaining attention, shifting focus, organizing, and prioritizing. In addition, people with ADHD tend to have less of the neurotransmitter dopamine that travels between neurons or brain cells. Dopamine is called the “feel-good” chemical or the chemical of motivation. When dopamine is low, it too impairs executive skill areas. This explains why we have so much trouble getting started. But it’s not impossible. Researchers have found a number of ways to sidestep the obstacles in our brains, so we can start reaching our goals.
 
What Helps?

Try using one or more of these tactics, which take advantage of how your brain is wired. They can help you sidestep the issues caused by ADHD and get you on track to achieving your goals.

• Just do it. The best way to create motivation is to start, says ADHD coach Marla Cummins. She recommends a warm-up routine, or a “this is what I do before I … routine.” Get into action with easy tasks that include movement.
• Touch the task. Make physical contact with the thing that is daunting before you actually plan to do it. It might look like laying out a paper you need to fill out where you can see it. This helps to combat anxiety around the task and the “out of sight, out of mind” mentality.
• Take one bite. “Take a bite out of the task” the day before. That way, when the time for the task comes you only have to do it, as opposed to also having to figure out what you need, going out to buy it, etc. The task plus the preliminary steps at the same time can be overwhelming. When we are overwhelmed, we tend to throw in the towel and do nothing.
• Schedule it. Assign a time to the task, write it down, and know exactly what you will do in that timeframe. Writing down the task impacts memory.
• Rehearse it. Mentally rehearse or review your task before you actually do it. If you are running errands, for example, picture yourself moving through the day.
• Plan it. Create a plan and stick to it. Ask yourself: “What is today’s priority?” This acts as a filter. You don’t have to do every task that comes to mind; only the one that you committed to. This relieves a lot of pressure! A plan is a container that holds some things in and keeps other things out.
• Get unstuck. When you find yourself stuck, the first question is, “what is getting in the way?” See if you can identify barriers. The second important question is, “who can help?”
• Try magic words. Consider three powerful words that can solve almost any problem: simplify, delegate, and eliminate.
• Say something nice. Change how you speak about the task at hand. Psychotherapist and author of the book, Survival Tips for Women with ADHD, Teresa Matlen says to replace the phrase, “Do it because you have to” with “Do it because you can.”
• Map it. Break down your task with “mind mapping.” Mind mapping is a simple, visual tool that helps with initiating, planning, prioritizing, estimating time, sequencing, and pacing.
• Put hard things first. Do the most challenging task at your best time of day.
• Flip the switch. Remember to take your medication before any difficult task. Everything works better when your brain is online.
• Create a deadline. Having a goal will help in getting over the finish line.
• Use a timer. It helps to give tasks a beginning and an end.
• Sprint. Break the task down into small increments so you can tackle it in short bursts.
• Make it fun. Create a task-friendly environment. It might mean listening to music that is energizing, sitting on an exercise ball, or going to a coffee shop to get the job done. Interest equals focus!
• Sidestep perfectionism. A job that is adequate and completed beats a perfect one that was never started or finished. 
• Reward your efforts. Plan a reward when you are done!

With Awareness Comes Choice
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Areas of challenge can become areas of strength. With each step forward comes a sense of confidence and a sense of control. You, too, can experience success with ADHD. 

On this St. Patrick’s Day, you don’t have to rely on luck (or motivation), in fact you can create your own. With a plan, you too can reach your pot of gold…and that’s no blarney!

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The film “Indivisible” shares the struggle of Army chaplain Darren Turner and his wife upon Darren’s return from a 15-month tour of duty in Afghanistan. It explores the psychological impact of war on soldiers and their families. The true story looks at the mental, physical, and spiritual stressors Darren and his wife experience, not realizing that they are living with untreated PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). Once the chaplain and his wife find the help they need, they’re able to move forward in their lives and support others who are struggling in the same way.

Chronic stress takes a toll
Untreated ADHD can have a similar effect on people. In my work with ADHD, I have clearly seen the impact ADHD can have on close relationships. Living for years with chronic stress takes its toll on both the person suffering and his or her significant other.

If you are the person with ADHD, you might feel criticized, misunderstood, or unduly controlled by your spouse. You may even feel like a failure. If you are the partner without ADHD, you might feel lonely, unappreciated, and tired of bearing the load on your own. At times, you may feel enormously frustrated.

There is a tendency to blame ADHD for all of the problems in a relationship, marriage consultant Melissa Orlov writes in her book, The ADHD Effect on Marriage. In reality, she says, both partners play a role. Orlov goes on to say that couples need not try harder, but to “try differently.”1

The symptoms of ADHD that can cause relationship problems trouble paying attention, forgetfulness, poor organizational skills, impulsivity, and emotional outbursts. Three areas that can make a difference are studying up on ADHD, acknowledging the impact of your behavior on your partner, and separating partners from their symptoms or behaviors.2

​Where can you begin?

• Get a diagnosis. If you suspect that you may have ADHD, step forward to get a clinical diagnosis. As the saying goes, “it is what it is.” Confirming your suspicions allows you to start exploring what you can do about them.
• Consider medication. The right medication can go a long way in managing the symptoms of ADHD.
• Examine where your ADHD shows up. Then, discover strategies to manage your struggles. Having ADHD is not your fault, but it is your responsibility. If you—the person with ADHD—don’t understand it, how will your partner?
• Learn about ADHD. This helps both you and your partner see you as being separate from the traits and symptoms of ADHD. A person has ADHD; he or she is not ADHD.
• Connect to the ADHD community. You can explore online options or visit a local support group. Step out of isolation and into community. You will see that you are not alone.

There is hope
Naming ADHD lessens its power over our lives. You can’t fight an enemy that you cannot see. Treat that unseen “guest” in your house. Above all else, stay connected to those you love. Remain undivided!
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​Sources
1. Low, Keath. “ADHD and Its Effect in Marriage: Interview with Melissa Orlov.” Verywellmind.com, March 19, 2018, https://www.verywellmind.com/adhd-and-its-effect-in-marriage-20380. Accessed February 14, 2019.
2. Smith, Melinda. “Adult ADHD and Relationships.” HealthGuide.org, January 2019,  https://www.helpguide.org/articles/add-adhd/adult-adhd-attention-deficit-disorder-and-relationships.htm. Accessed February 14, 2019.

I recently heard actress Jessica McCabe, YouTube sensation, speak in St. Louis. Host of the YouTube channel, How to ADHD, Jessica’s weekly program teaches children and adults tips and techniques for managing ADHD in a funny, fast-paced, ADHD-friendly way!

Diagnosed with ADHD as a child, Jessica grew up with excellent supports her mother put in place. As a young adult, the budding actress began to flounder, unable to keep a job or manage many of the responsibilities of adult life. She couldn’t seem to remember her lines. Plus, her agent told her she was too big and needed to lose 10 pounds.

When Jessica crossed paths with a life coach, a defining moment happened. When she relayed her agent had told her “you need to be smaller,” the coach simply said to her: “You need to be bigger.”

With tears running down her face, Jessica said, “when you create space for yourself, you create space for others.” And that’s exactly what Jessica did in launching her YouTube career. In making herself vulnerable, she forged a connection with countless others in the ADHD community who suffer, bringing hope. You can hear Jessica’s story in a TED talk, “Failing at Normal: An ADHD Success Story.”

Here are a few questions for you (and me) to ponder as we start the new year:
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• Where are you “living small”?
• In what area of your life might you live larger?
• What would “living larger” look like?
• What risk are you willing to take?
• Who or what can support you as you step forward?
• For whom can you create space?

Most of us are playing it safe in some part of our lives. Maybe there’s one thing that you have always wanted to try. It might be bravely stepping forward to get an ADHD diagnosis. Or creating boundaries with family members who don’t believe that ADHD is real. It might look like doing that one thing you are afraid to do. Every step forward strengthens your game, making the next challenge easier. Our own vulnerability can connect us with others. Join me in making this new year our largest yet!

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Recently I received two handwritten notes, thanking my husband and I for helping to guide friends on a recent tour of New York City. Though not necessary, it was a beautiful thing to receive such an expression of gratitude!  Why don’t we take the time to count our blessings and express appreciation to others?
 
Shifting Focus

Those of us with ADHD recognize that our focus and attention can rapidly shift. We often roll with tunnel vision just to get through the day. The very real challenges of living daily life with ADHD can make it easier to focus on what isn’t working, rather than what is. 
 
The brain only has so much power to focus its attention, neuroscientist and author Alex Korb says in an article titled “The Grateful Brain.” It cannot easily focus on both positive and negative stimuli.
 
The more we dwell on areas of life that are out of control, the more out of control we feel, Korb explains in another article, “The Stress of Uncontrollability". This cranks up anxiety, increasing activity in the emotional center of the brain.
 
When we stop fixating on things beyond our control, stress goes down and positive emotions go up, psychologists have discovered.
 
This is why I start every ADHD coaching session by asking clients what is going well. When a client is struggling with feeling overwhelmed, for example, their thoughts are stuck in the anxious part of the brain, the amygdala (temporal lobe). Once we make a plan, the client’s thoughts move to the calm, rational part of the brain, the frontal lobe. Check out this neat diagram explaining parts of the brain!
 
Counting Blessings
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Studies have found that grateful people tend to experience more optimism, lower anxiety, a stronger immune system, less stress, and an overall increase in energy. These benefits can be produced just by thinking about gratitude.
 
A brain scan of subjects during a 2009 experiment by the National Institutes of Health showed that thinking about gratitude increased blood flow in the hypothalamus, which controls major body functions, such as sleep and metabolism. The study also highlighted brain regions activated by dopamine, the feel-good chemical, which is a neurotransmitter that individuals with ADHD are in short supply of. Dopamine helps with motivation, taking action, and a sense of reward. The fact that gratitude was associated with being rewarded made the participants want to continue being thankful.
 
Becoming Grateful

So how can we become more grateful? The world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude, Robert Emmons, says that the practice starts with “paying attention.” He encourages a daily practice of recalling the gifts, grace, benefits and good things you enjoy. This helps you notice things you might otherwise take for granted. 
 
Intentionally focus on the positive. There is always something to be thankful for, no matter how small. Starting every ADHD coaching session by discussing what is working sets the tone for the entire session. We start to see challenges through the lens of strengths, which positions the brain for success. Before we know it, we are also looking at what is good in our lives—as well as in the lives of others. 
 
If you’d like to feel the power of thankfulness, check out “8 Gratitude Exercises to Unlock the Most Powerful Emotion That Exists.” Decide to focus on gratitude today and discover the difference that it makes!
 
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Your ADHD Coach,

Cheryl
 
 

​You may have seen the recent film, “Book Club.” There is a scene where Carol, played by Mary Steenburgen, is all set to perform her tap dance routine. To her great surprise, instead of her own music chiming in, she hears the music of Meatloaf! She endures, tapping her heart out, trying to make her tap routine fit music that is not her own!

Many adults with ADHD try so hard to fit into the world around them—the neuro-typical world. It’s like pounding a square peg into a round hole. You may be someone who has ten planners around the house that you never use, or who keeps lists everywhere on shreds of paper. You may spend way more time at work than your peers, just trying to catch up on the workload. As a parent of a child with ADHD, you may have struggled hard to find the right treatment plan. You may be the parent spending hours doing daily homework with your child, a chore often accompanied by stress, frustration, and meltdowns.

What if, instead of dancing to the wrong music, you started dancing to your own music? What if you knew how to fit the world to you instead of the other way around? What if you had tools and strategies that were in keeping with your own unique brain wiring? What if you were in community with others who truly understood ADHD?

What if you had a planner that you liked and that really worked for you, one that reflected your own unique ADHD brain? What if you knew how to set up your job workspace in a such a way that it complemented your learning style or sensory preferences?

What if your child received accommodations that leveled the playing field, allowing him to lessen his workload or have extra time for tests? What if you had an accurate diagnosis, with medication that helped with inattention or hyperactivity, that allowed you to focus for the first time?

What gets in the way for you? More importantly, what can you do about it?

The first step might be to know that it is OK to do life differently than others. Next, you need to know what you need, so you can ask for what you need. Finally, you can learn how to maximize your own personal strengths to minimize the challenges of ADHD. People with ADHD will get over the finish line, just like anyone else, though they may do it on their own time table and in their own unique way.

Sadly, there is still stigma, misinformation, as well as a lack of understanding regarding ADHD. Many times, it’s right within our own families.

The theme of this year’s ADHD awareness month is “Setting the Record Straight.” ADD Joy of Life Coaching, LLC, joins with ADHD Awareness Month to promote advocacy and sound treatment for children, young adults, and adults with ADHD.

Find your voice and speak up today! Together, we can “Set the Record Straight.”

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Most adults with ADHD would agree that having ADHD equals feeling stressed and overwhelmed daily! We can be perfectionists, trying to stay a few steps ahead, so that we don’t fall several steps behind. Or we might be escape artists, trying to run away from all our troubles!  What if we didn’t have to do either?

The thought of rest can be such a foreign topic. As people who are not neurotypical, we have a hard time regulating ourselves.  We often have too little or too much of everything, especially focus and attention. It might take a while to get going in the morning, but once we do, we absolutely want to keep rolling, often with an all-or-nothing mentality.

We don’t always have the awareness to recognize that we haven’t eaten in a long time, or we haven’t taken that aspirin early on. Only when it’s three hours later and our head is still splitting do we realize our mistake.

Sometimes, we leave everything to the last minute, creating a deadline. This raises dopamine and adrenaline, which does help to get things done. But after the fact, we collapse out of weariness.

Or we might feel undeserving, treating ourselves harshly for having a brain wiring that is isn’t our fault. 

The truth is, we do need stimulation and a measure of excitement to wake up our brains. Plus, there is always so much to catch up on! Maybe you have asked yourself these questions more than once: “How could I possibly slow down enough to rest?” or “What would it even look like?”

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is a physician specializing in internal medicine, who sought answers regarding life balance when she reached the point of burnout during her residency.  She pondered the area of rest.  What were the areas of rest that made for a balanced life?  And how would discovering rest in critical areas affect wellness?

She discovered not only the importance of rest, but of seven different types of rest!  Experiencing rest in any of the seven areas would cause her patients and herself to feel restored and re-energized! 

Dr. Dalton-Smith breaks rest into seven areas: Physical, Mental, Social, Emotional, Sensory, Spiritual, and Creative.  You can take her free rest assessment at www.ichoosemybestlife.com. 

Where do you need to restore and recoup your energy?  When we add something into our lives that fulfills us, it often allows us to do all of the other necessary tasks of life!  Living with ADHD exacts a price.  What would downtime look like for you?

As Winnie the Pooh states in the classic film, Christopher Robin, “Doing nothing often leads to the very best something!”

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