The Do’s and Don’ts of Fidgeting – Part Two

Fidgeting is a powerful tool for self-regulation and improving focus and attention, especially for people with ADHD. However, to make the most of its benefits, there are a few do’s and don’ts to keep in mind when using fidgets.

Do: Choose Fidgets That Don’t Compete with Your Primary Task

A fidget should support your ability to focus, not distract you from your main task. For example, if you’re listening during a meeting at work, avoid using earbuds to play music, as it will interfere with your ability to pay attention.

Do: Select Small, Portable Fidgets for School or Work

As a former teacher, I’ve seen how fidgets can be viewed negatively when they become a distraction. To avoid this, choose discreet, small fidgets that are easy to manage in professional or classroom settings.

Do: Plan Ahead

Think about your day and where you might need a fidget. Consider the setting and choose a fidget that works best for the situation:

• In meetings: A fidget pen or spinner ring can be effective and unobtrusive.

• On the go: A weighted fidget spinner in your pocket can be useful if you’re caught in a hallway conversation or waiting in line.

  
  

Do: Keep Fidgets Discreet

Whenever possible, use your fidget below the waist to avoid drawing attention to yourself. The goal is to stay focused without distracting those around you.

Do: Be Respectful of Others

Fidgets should never disrupt the people around you. Avoid anything that:

• Makes noise (e.g., clicking or beeping).

• Requires tossing or throwing.

• Prevents others from focusing on their tasks.

Don’t: Treat a Fidget Like a Toy

This is especially important in school environments. Fidgets are tools, not toys, and should be used as such. Misusing them can reinforce negative stereotypes about ADHD and fidgeting.

Do: Keep Your Fidget Organized

To avoid frustration or losing your fidgets:

• Establish a designated place to store them when not in use.

• Use cases or containers, like a hole-punched mesh pencil holder in a binder, to keep them easily accessible.

By putting your fidget back in its place, you’ll always know where to find it.

Don’t: Forget About Fidget Contracts in Schools

If your child is in elementary school, your teacher might require them to sign a fidget contract. These contracts outline the rules for using fidgets and explain that fidget use is a privilege, not a right. Fidgets can be taken away if they’re not used appropriately. (Tip: Check Pinterest for examples of fidget contracts!)

Do: Use Different Fidgets for Home, School, or Work

The type of fidget you use will depend on the environment:

• At home: A fidget cube that clicks might be perfect for personal use.

• At school or work: Opt for quieter tools like a spinner ring or stress ball to avoid distracting others.

Experience the Joy of Fidgeting!

Fidgeting can make a huge difference in focus and concentration for people with ADHD when used effectively.

If you’d like guidance in selecting the best fidgets to boost your brainpower, click here for a free discovery session!

Resources

• The Body-Brain Connection: How Fidgeting Sharpens Focus – Roland Rotz, Ph.D., and Sarah Wright, ADDitude Magazine

• The Do’s and Don’ts of Fidgets for Kids – Understood.org